Happy Fathers Day 2018 http://fatherday2017.com Diwali Quotes, Images, Wishes, Poems, Photos Mon, 19 Feb 2018 01:24:13 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.9.3 A Letter to My Stepdaughter http://fatherday2017.com/a-letter-to-my-stepdaughter/ Mon, 19 Feb 2018 01:24:13 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/a-letter-to-my-stepdaughter/ Dear beautiful child, I want you to know that I didn’t always think it would work out, you and me and your father. I didn’t always trust and have faith that I could be the person you and he needed me to be. There were days I failed miserably. There […]

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Dear beautiful child,

I want you to know that I didn’t always think it would work out, you and me and your father. I didn’t always trust and have faith that I could be the person you and he needed me to be. There were days I failed miserably. There were times I was resentful and I took it out on you. But then we would have these tiny moments of awesomeness. Tiny wonderful moments that made it all worth the stress and sleepless nights. You ARE worth every second of my own struggle as a stepmom. It wasn’t you who needed to change. It wasn’t you that made me angry. It was me. It was my own proud, selfish anger that created distance and tension. You did nothing wrong. Let me repeat that. You did nothing wrong. I never ever meant to make you feel like you were the problem. I hope you can truly understand this one day.

I want you to understand that being a stepmom is both a privilege but also very complicated. There is no manual for it, and we stepmoms tend to learn as we go. No step family is exactly the same. But being your stepmom has been rewarding beyond measure. You have taught me things like compassion, sensitivity, and patience. Being a stepmom has afforded me so many opportunities to learn and to “step up.” Sometimes I did. And it felt awesome to be able to be there for you. Other times I didn’t step up, and I wished that I had. Most of the time I’m learning how to be your stepmom as I go. For awhile I chose to hang back and let your dad do most of the parenting because I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. I still don’t sometimes. But one thing I do know for sure is that I love you and who you are growing up to be. Yes. I do. Without conditions. You’re in my heart just as though you were my own daughter.

And now you’re getting older. I have watched you grow into this beautiful, kind, creative person with your own ideas and opinions and perspectives of the world. And I hope that you embrace those things that make you special wholeheartedly. I hope you take your unique family situation and can create an awesome story from it. Your story. Who you are. You aren’t your mother, your father, your stepdad or me. You aren’t your cousins, your neighbors, your classmates. You are you. And who you are is so perfectly wonderful.

My wish for you is that you know how much you are loved. And I want you to know how much you’ve changed me and my heart as a woman and as a mother. You are helping us raise our son (your brother) in a home that is full of joy. Your goodness grows and teaches him goodness. Your love and kindness teaches him love and kindness. You might not know it, but he looks up to you.

I know you have lots of people to talk to about things, about life. And I may or may not be on your top list of those people. But please let me share something with you that I want you to take with you wherever you go: Be brave with your life. Be smart with your choices. Share your gifts and your joy with the world. You are too valuable, too special not to. And please know that I am here for you if you ever need me to be.

Love always,

Your stepmom



Source by Kristen Frank

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Cards of Destiny – Your Yearly Spreads Cards – The Key to Your Past, Present and Future http://fatherday2017.com/cards-of-destiny-your-yearly-spreads-cards-the-key-to-your-past-present-and-future/ Sun, 18 Feb 2018 01:23:33 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/cards-of-destiny-your-yearly-spreads-cards-the-key-to-your-past-present-and-future/ The way the system of the cards of destiny works is quite magical in many ways. First of all, instead of months, the year is divided into seven planetary periods, each 52 days long. They begin on your birthday each year. On your birthday each year you begin the Mercury […]

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The way the system of the cards of destiny works is quite magical in many ways. First of all, instead of months, the year is divided into seven planetary periods, each 52 days long. They begin on your birthday each year. On your birthday each year you begin the Mercury period, which lasts for 52 days. The entire sequence is as follows:

Mercury – begins on your birthday, lasts 52 days Venus – lasts 52 days Mars- lasts 52 days Jupiter – lasts 52 days Saturn – lasts 52 days Uranus – lasts 52 days Neptune – starts 52 days before your next birthday

The dates that each of these periods begin can be calculated by simply adding 52 days to your birthday, and so on. For example, for someone born on December 5th, the dates would be

Mercury – December 5th Venus – January 27th Mars – March 20th Jupiter – May 11th Saturn – July 2nd Uranus – August 23rd Neptune – October 14th

These periods begin and end on the same dates, except on leap year for a small number of birthdays.

In each of these periods are generally found two cards (Neptune often has only one). These cards are not selected by you. They are calculated from the day of your birth. Thus these cards and the other ones in your ‘yearly spread’ as we call it, are all fixed from the moment of your birth. The two cards in each period, we call planetary period cards, govern these 52-day periods and tell you what will happen, and often who that will happen with. For example, someone who as a 4 of Hearts and a Jack of Diamonds in their Venus period might get married (4 of Hearts) to a young Diamond man (Jack of Diamonds). And often the cards that show up in our planetary periods are the very Birth Cards of people we know, ensuring us that they will be the ones that we will be interacting with at that time. It is amazing sometimes how uncannily this can work out. I remember when I took my first class in the cards I realized that I had an A of Hearts with a 2 of Clubs in Venus, right at that time. Well, Catherine Oxenberg, a famous actress whose Birth Card is a 2 of Clubs, was another student present in that class. And the A of Hearts represented my strong attraction to her. I was stunned when I discovered that, and a little embarrassed, thinking that she would know my secret.

These planetary period cards are important for understanding what is going on during these 52-day spans of time and helpful in making future predictions. But there are five other cards in the yearly spread that are actually a lot more powerful than these. We call these the Year-Long Influence Cards.

Year-Long Influence Cards

These five cards are the most powerful of all. Actually people from the special family of seven that we discussed in our last lesson only have three of these. But in either case, these are the cards to look for first when making some sort of determination about what a year holds in store for us. The five cards are: The Long Range Card The Pluto Card The Result Card The Environment Card The Displacement Card

The last two are the ones that the special ‘family of seven do not have. It is a bit complicated to explain why right now. Just chalk it up to their fixed natures for now. We will talk a bit about each of these cards now.

The Long Range Card is the most important of all. I call the headliner card for the year. It essentially points to something, or in some cases, someone, that will be the most important holder of your attention for any given year. I can often scan the Long Range Cards for someone and see how their future will unfold over a period of years. It is quite fascinating. But whenever I do cards reading on my weekly radio show, the first place I look is at the caller’s Long Range Card. Usually it will tell me everything I need to know. It is just that important. In addition, you have another Long Range Card found in the yearly spread for your Planetary Ruling Card, which does not appear in these free applications. When you want the entire picture of the year you will want to know both. I remember when I appeared on the Marilu Henner show a numbers of years back. She was studying her spreads and looking for cards that would represent the birth of her newborn son. There were no childbirth cards present. However, his Birth Card was her Long Range Card! When I pointed this out to her, her skepticism turned into surprise and wonder.

The Pluto Card and the Result Card are related. As we begin each year, they both, when their meaning is combined together, tell you what the challenges you will face this year. Sometimes these are cards of people you know, or will meet. Usually they represent something you want that you do not have as you begin your year. When this happens, they are an important goal. Other times these cards represent changes that you have been ignoring, but are necessary. We used to call these the challenge cards. The cool thing is that every year you are guaranteed to make these changes and the reward is your Result Card, which is always interpreted in a positive way. Sometimes it represents a quality you will possess and in some cases a person. I remember predicting the birth of my second son Michael because that year I had the King of Hearts, called the father card, as my Result Card. This is how easy and amazing this system is.

The Environment Card is always a blessing card that gives us gifts for the current year. It also can be a person, or it could be a money card, a move card, or a love card. Whatever it is each year, it will be something that is helping you. Wouldn’t you like to know what yours is?

The Displacement Card is equally important. It is a ‘locational’ card, though that is a bit difficult to explain in an introductory article like this. What it often does is pinpoint major years of success, fame, recognition, reward, or in some rare cases, caution. Some of the most important cycles of our life are heralded by our Displacement Card.

Your Birth Card has a yearly spread and so does your Planetary Ruling Card. So for most people this means you have two spreads to look at each year. With so many destiny cards, you have ample information about every month of the year, and the year in a general sense. All of this probably sounds a bit complicated. However, I guarantee you that you can learn this in an hour or less. Imagine, you invest an hour of your time to learn a tool that you can use for the rest of your life. I have business clients who spend thousands of dollars having me examine their yearly spreads to help them make business decisions.



Source by Robert Lee Camp

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Kerala Nair Weddings http://fatherday2017.com/kerala-nair-weddings/ Sat, 17 Feb 2018 01:15:01 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/kerala-nair-weddings/ A Kerala Nair wedding ceremony is very simple. The ceremony takes just a couple of minutes. But prior to that there are some rituals to be followed. The Malayalee month Chingam is considered to be the most auspicious month to conduct the weddings. The months of Midhunam, Karkatakam and Kanni […]

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A Kerala Nair wedding ceremony is very simple. The ceremony takes just a couple of minutes. But prior to that there are some rituals to be followed. The Malayalee month Chingam is considered to be the most auspicious month to conduct the weddings. The months of Midhunam, Karkatakam and Kanni are generally avoided. A traditional Kerala Nair marriage is conducted with the following steps.

Horoscope matching

A marriage proposal moves forward with the horoscope matching. Though in the modern world, few do not believe in this old theory of horoscope matching for a happy and lasting marriage, many others still believe in their ancestors’ thinking and they would not like to take chances with their children’s lives, foregoing this step. Today more marriages are arranged through the online match making sites, and many of these sites do have facilities for horoscope matching on their sites.

Meeting the girl (Pennu Kanal)

Once the horoscopes are matched, the boy and his parents or other elders come to see the girl officially. It can be a simple affair or a large celebration, where the prospective bride and groom and their families consent to the marriage.

Meeting the boy’s family (Veedu Kanal)

The girl’s parents also visit the boy’s family to know more about him and his family, where their daughter is going to spend the rest of her life. This custom is called Veedu Kanal.

Engagement (Vivaha Nischayam)

Once both the families are satisfied with the alliance, the marriage will be officially announced in the presence of the elders and close friends, which is called “Vivaha Nischayam”. It may be a simple affair or a large celebration, according to their wish and convenience. In some areas, the wedding rings are exchanged during this function, and in some other areas exchange of rings are done during the wedding ceremony.

Ayana (Prewedding day)

On the evening before the wedding, the families and close friends of both the bride and the groom, gather in their respective houses, to bless them. A traditional dinner will be arranged for them. The bride will be dressed in one of her best saris, bejewelled, and her hands will be decorated with mehendi. Mehendi is not a traditional ceremony of Kerala Nair wedding; it is a new practice followed from other communities.

Namaskaram (Blessing from the elders)

On the Wedding day, the elders take the sacred “Thali” (mangalyasutra) to the temple to get blessed. This thali is going to be tied around the girl’s neck by the groom on the wedding day symbolising the marriage. After taking the blessings of her elders by touching their feet, the bride is taken to the wedding venue, with her family members and friends. It could be a temple, or her ancestral home, or a kalyana mandap.

Thalikettu and Pudavakodukkal (Wedding)

On the wedding day, the groom and his family arrive at the venue of the wedding. Usually it is arranged in the girl’s place. They are received ceremoniously in the midst of the traditional music (Nadaswaram and thayil). The bride’s brother washes the groom’s feet on a wooden plank and the aunts perform aarathi (pooja) and receives him. The groom and his people are escorted by the young girls holding the traditional brass lamps. The boy sits in the mandap on the right side of the decorated canopy. The bride is then escorted to the mandap amidst the traditional music and takes her place facing the east, with the groom facing her. At the auspicious moment (muhurtham) the bride ties the”thali” around her neck, in a sacred yellow thread, to the beating of drums, and gifts her a sari. This ritual is called Thalikettu and Pudavakodukkal. His mother also ties her a chain, accepting her as her daughter-in-law. The bride and groom exchange garlands. This is followed by her father keeping his daughter’s hand in the groom’s hand, handing over her to her groom in holy matrimony. This sacred ritual is called Kanyadan. Holding her hand, the groom goes around the fire three times.

The newly married couple will take their parents’ and elders blessings together and then will be lead to a room and to give Milk and Banana by the bride’s mother and relatives.

After the wedding ceremony, the guests will come to wish them with gifts. Then they will be given a grand feast called “sadhya”. It will be a traditional vegetarian lunch with varieties of dishes and payasam, served in plantain leaf.

Gruhapravesham

At an auspicious time, the bridegroom takes his bride escorted by his people, and few members from the girl’s family, to his house. They are received there ceremoniously. The bride enters the house, holding the traditional brass lamp in her hand, and keeping her right foot in. After some time the girl’s people return home, leaving her in her new home.

Reception

In some families, they hold a Reception party in the boy’s side where his friends and relatives are invited, to meet the newly wedded couple. Many of them come with gifts to bless them. Usually it will be arranged in a Hotel. During this time, the guests are served with a grand dinner.



Source by Lakshmi Menon

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Russian Holidays http://fatherday2017.com/russian-holidays/ Fri, 16 Feb 2018 01:14:10 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/russian-holidays/ The most important Russian holiday is New Year’s Day – January 1st. During the Soviet era, people were not allowed to celebrate Christmas, so New Year’s became the most important holiday. New Year’s is a public holiday while Christmas is more of a private family holiday. Happy New Year in […]

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The most important Russian holiday is New Year’s Day – January 1st. During the Soviet era, people were not allowed to celebrate Christmas, so New Year’s became the most important holiday. New Year’s is a public holiday while Christmas is more of a private family holiday. Happy New Year in Russian is ‘Snovum Godom.’

Russian Orthodox Christmas is celebrated on January 7th. This is the equivalent day to December 25 in the old Russian calendar.Russians also celebrate ‘Catholic Christmas’ on December 25th and the old Russian New Year’s Day of January 14th in the Julian calendar, which they used until 1918.

Russians celebrate more holidays than Hallmark Cards. It is just one more reason to pull the cork out of the vodka bottle.

The most important holiday as far as Russian women are concerned is “International Women’s Day.” This is March 8. This holiday, that Americans have never heard of, is like Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, and her birthday all rolled into one. On this day, the men do all the household chores. They treat the woman of the house as Queen for a Day. They buy her a nice gift and maybe flowers.

One word of advice: Remember this day as you would your anniversary, her birthday, Valentine’s Day, and Mother’s Day. It is that important to a Russian woman.

One big difference between Russia and America is that Russians don’t celebrate Thanksgiving Day, Mother’s Day, or Father’s Day. They don’t celebrate any of the ethnic holidays that America has like St. Patrick’s Day, Columbus Day, or Martin Luther King Day, although I’m sure they could get behind the spirit of St. Patrick’s Day one hundred percent.

Each former Soviet Republic has its own independence day that is celebrated like Independence Day in America, although not quite to the same degree it is celebrated in America.February 23 is officially Soldier’s Day and is kind of like Father’s Day where men are honored.

May 9 is Victory Day, where the Russians celebrate victory in the great Patriotic War — what we call World War II. Every man who is a veteran is treated like a general on this day. There is much drinking and celebrating to honor the conquering war heroes.

November 7 is the Soviet holiday that commemorates the October Revolution (which actually took place in November), when the Bolsheviks took power from the Czar. The reason it is called the October revolution is because it was in the month of October in the old Russian calendar.

Remember the parades in Red Square. During this holiday, the Soviet leaders wore those big Russian fur hats while standing above Lenin’s tomb.This holiday is still celebrated by some, although not nearly as much as when the Soviets were in power.

Pascha is the Russian Orthodox equivalent to Catholic Easter. Easter is the first Sunday following the first full moon after the Spring Equinox (March 21).Pascha is the first Sunday following the first full moon after the Spring Equinox and Jewish Passover.

This was the date that the Christian Church originally celebrated Easter.Passover is the Jewish religious celebration when the Lord passed over the houses of the Israelites during the plagues that Moses visited upon the Egyptians for holding the Israelites captive. The last plague, or curse, was that the first-born sons of all the land would perish.

The Israelites were to sacrifice a lamb to God and put the blood of the lamb over their doorstep. By doing so, they would be Passed Over by the plague, and their first-born would be spared.

To Christians, Jesus represented the Lamb of God. He was the Passover lamb. He was the Lamb who was sacrificed to save the souls of all people, not just the first-born sons of the Israelites.

Jesus came to Jerusalem during Passover and was crucified right after Passover.The Orthodox celebrate Pascha (The Passion) after Passover for this reason.



Source by John Kunkle

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23 Games to Play in the Car (or Anywhere!) http://fatherday2017.com/23-games-to-play-in-the-car-or-anywhere/ Thu, 15 Feb 2018 01:13:11 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/23-games-to-play-in-the-car-or-anywhere/ How many of you find that travel or riding to or from an event, school or camp accounts for some of the quality time you have with your children? Instead of spending that time in silence or frustrated because you are listening to the same child-music CD for the 18th […]

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How many of you find that travel or riding to or from an event, school or camp accounts for some of the quality time you have with your children? Instead of spending that time in silence or frustrated because you are listening to the same child-music CD for the 18th time that day, try a fun car game. These games often lead to laughter and memorable moments. These are also great when trying to keep children entertained in lines, waiting rooms, etc.

Here are a few that I have learned over the years, heard about from friends, or created with my daughter.

Guessing Games

Car Colors: Choose a time limit such as 10 minutes or 30 minutes – depending on the length of the drive. Have each rider make a guess about how many cars of a certain color will be spotted during that time. The closest guesser wins. You can also do this in “sprint fashion” by using 3 -minute intervals as your time limit. Whoever is closest gets a point for that time segment. The first one to 5 points wins.

Odd or Even: Each player makes a guess at how many of the next 20 license plates will end with an even number. The one who is closest wins. It helps to have a little tally chart to keep score. You can lengthen the game by increasing the number of license plates.

Spy: You are probably familiar with this one. One player announces something that they see and the other players try to guess what it is by asking questions. The only trick when doing this while driving is that it has to be something that won’t go out of view – like the sky, the road, etc. Someone announces that they “spy” something and gives a clue. Example: I spy something blue. The players then take turns guessing until some one gets it. Whoever guesses correctly starts the next spy-turn.

20 Questions:One person thinks of a famous person, place or thing. Everyone else is allowed to ask the player 20 questions which can only be answered ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ Whoever guesses correctly becomes the next person to think of something. (We play this without a limit on the number of questions.)

Observation Games

The Alphabet Game: I am sure you know this one! Each player sequentially works through the alphabet looking for something that starts with a specific letter. For example: A might be apple tree or a word on a sign. Once a player finds an A word, they move onto B. (Have fun with Q, X and Z!) The first rider to work through the alphabet wins. Variation: Use only letters found on billboards, or letters on license plates.

The Animal Game:If you are in more rural areas where cars aren’t abundant, try the animal game. Keep on the lookout for animals and when you see one be the first to make the animal sound. For example if you saw a cow you would say “moooo.” The first person to make the animal sound wins a point. Play to a designated number of points. You can make this game a bit more complicated for older kids by adding a designated number of points depending on the commonality of the animal – i.e. cows are 1 point, pigs are 2 points, etc.

Find it First:Choose an item such as Volkswagen bugs, farms, people taking walks, silos, etc. Then choose a number like 5 or 20 depending on the length of your drive. See who can find the designated number of the chosen item first.

Music Games

Hum-Along: One rider hums a song and the other passengers try to guess. The person who guesses goes next. The first one to guess 3 right wins.

Radio Game 1:Hit the “scan” button on your radio until it stops on a song. The first person to guess the artist wins.

Radio Game 2:This isn’t so much a game but a way not to fight over music! The first person to take a turn goes through the dial until they find a song they like. You then listen to that song until completed. Then the next rider does the same, etc., etc. The only rule is that if you go all the way through the dial without finding a song you like then you need to listen to the last song you land on or lose a turn.

Radio Game 3:While the radio is off, each rider chooses a word. Turn the radio on. The winner is the person whose word is spoken or sung first.

Creative Thinking Games

Story-Telling:One passenger starts a story with a single sentence. Then the next person adds a sentence. Continue until you build a complete story.

The Question Game: Take turns asking open and thoughtful questions and allowing each person time to answer. Examples:

If you were on a deserted island and could only take 3 things, what would you take and why?

Who are your mentors/heroes and why?

If you won the lottery what you do with it?

If you could have lunch with a famous person, who would you pick and why?

Note: If you really get into this game, you can purchase small books called “The Book of Questions” at most bookstores that give you a ton of subjects to choose from!

Word Games

Word Sequence: Choose a topic such as animals, places, television shows, people, fruit, etc. Name something in your category. If you choose animals you might say “panda.” The next player has to name an animal that starts with the last letter of your animal. In this example, their animal would have to start with the letter “A” such as “alligator.” Play continues until someone can’t think of a word. They are then eliminated. When you have only 1 person left, they are the winner. You cannot use any animal name twice. (If you are playing with real young children, let them have the handicap of being able to use the same word twice).

The Round Game: My daughter made up this one and we have had great fun with it. Even my best friend who is single and childless enjoys this game over dinner with us. We choose a topic such as vegetables, board games, television shows, cities, types of cereal, flowers, movies, etc. Then we name something within that category. For example for cereal the first player might say “Cheerios.” Then the next player names a cereal. Play continues until someone can’t think of an item, then they are “out.” Play continues until there is only one person left. For young children, let them have three “passes” as a handicap.

The Rhyming Game:Someone picks a word to start with, such as “ball.” The next player has to come up with a word that rhymes. Play continues until someone cannot think of a rhyming word. As always, give younger players a hint or two. You make the game more difficult for older kids by having each player recite the previous list of words before adding their own.

Tongue Twisters:Choose a person that you all know, example, “Sara.” Then start with a phrase about that person that uses only the first letter of her name such as “Sara says strawberries…” take turns adding “S” words with as few “connectors” as possible (a connector is a word that doesn’t start with S) to see how silly of a tongue twister you can create!

Memory Games

My father/mother owns a grocery store:One player begins the round by stating, “My father owns a grocery store, and in it he sells (something that begins with the letter A; e.g., ant traps).” The next player states, “My father owns a grocery store, and in it he sells ants traps and (something that begins with the letter B; e.g., bananas). “Play continues with each player having to recite the current list and then add something that begins with the next sequential letter of the alphabet. For young players, offer them “3 strikes” where you will help them if they forget the list. Adults–sorry, no handicap for you!

Variation: You can vary this game to match your interests or those of a child. Example:

My mother owns a clothing store and in it she sells ____________

My brother owns a music store and in it he sells -______________

My sister works as a producer and she has produced __________ (insert television show)

My father owns a bookstore and in it he sells _________________

Just Plain Silly Games

Laugh A Lot: Choose a player to keep a straight face. The rest of the players choose a silly answer for the player to use such as “My shoe.” Then players take turns asking questions such as,

What do you brush your hair with?

What is your favorite snack?

Who is your hero?

Where is your favorite vacation destination?

The player keeping the straight face has to answer with “My shoe,” while trying to keep a straight face. If they laugh then play passes to someone else and a new phrase is established.

Math Games

Add-it-up: Call out the numbers on the license plate and see who can add up the numbers the quickest. For example D572-43X – players would have to calculate 5+7+2+4+3. Whoever answers correctly gets a point. The one who reaches 5 points first is the winner. (No calculators allowed.)

Games that Require a Bit of Preparation

Travel Bingo:Make a bingo board with color names in the squares. Print out several on your home computer. As you drive, players place an X when they see a car of the specific color. You can add to the excitement by letting each car only be used by the first person to “call it.” Try 4 corners, blackout (filing up the whole card) making an X on the card, etc.

Variation: Make a “mixed” car board and include different types of items on the card such as:

Fire truck

Stop light

Grocery store

National Historic Monument

Lake or Pond

Farm

Police Car

Billboard

Speed Talking: (You will need either a timer or watch with a second hand)

Choose a topic and then talk for 60 seconds straight without repeating yourself or pausing. One point is awarded if you accomplish the goal. Take turns playing to a designated number of points depending on the length of your drive. If someone makes it 30 seconds, award them ½ a point.

Game for a Tired Driver

Statue:On a long trip and need some quiet time? Play a round of statue. The person who can stay still and quiet the longest wins!

Print a copy of this article and store it in your glove compartment! Whenever kids are bored or restless in the car, you’ll be equipped with fun ideas to turn long road trips into magical memories!



Source by Brook Noel

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10 Types of Jewelry For Men http://fatherday2017.com/10-types-of-jewelry-for-men/ Wed, 14 Feb 2018 01:08:57 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/10-types-of-jewelry-for-men/ When we think of jewelry, we automatically think of jewelry for women. These days it is becoming increasingly common and fashionable for men to wear jewelry. Although much of men’s jewelry serves a purpose, there are many items that have no other purpose than to complement a man’s natural good […]

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When we think of jewelry, we automatically think of jewelry for women. These days it is becoming increasingly common and fashionable for men to wear jewelry. Although much of men’s jewelry serves a purpose, there are many items that have no other purpose than to complement a man’s natural good looks. Read on to discover some obvious (and some not so obvious) jewelry choices for men.

Make a Statement with Men’s Jewelry

1. Watches

Timepieces have been around for a few centuries and serve a useful purpose. Jewelry or machine? Honestly, a watch is really a piece of jewelry that also happens to tell time. This is a way to get men who do not like wearing “jewelry” to actually wear jewelry without knowing it. The type of watch worn has to match the image the man wants to project,: a watch for the executive, a Swatch for the artist, a Nike for the athlete. Since many men have active lifestyles, there are different watches designed for different activities.

2. Rings

The next most common piece of jewelry men wear is a ring. The reason being in just about every culture, rings are worn to symbolize marriage between two people. Rings have been around for ages. Unlike watches, they do not serve a purpose, but when worn on the left ring finger, they do send out a signal about a man’s marital status. Wedding rings used to be made out of just gold or platinum. In fact, it wasn’t until recently that wedding ring designers began to experiment with the idea of using alternative metals. One of the first alternative metals was titanium. The metal was valued for its light weight, white color and strength. It is used for many other types of jewelry, not just rings. Only less than 5 years ago, tungsten carbide – a relatively unknown metal to the general public – suddenly exploded in popularity. It now comprises 20% of all men’s wedding ring sales in North America. Men’s tungsten wedding bands are valued for their extreme hardness. They are four times harder than titanium and have a hefty weight that men like. Tungsten is so hard that only a diamond or sapphire can scratch it. Tungsten is also very affordable. If you want to stick to a precious metal ring, but don’t want to pay through your nose for a gold or platinum ring, palladium may be the way to go. Palladium rings look and act just like platinum because both these metals are from the same family of metals, the Platinum Group Metals. Palladium, however, is about 70% less expensive than platinum rings. Many jewelers only deal with a few select metals.

3. Earring(s)

Traditionally for women, the earring is now accepted by society for men. Some men wear one earring and some wear two. Men that have traditional jobs in an office setting are often discouraged from wearing earrings or not allowed to wear them by company policy. Although, less popular as a man’s gift, earrings are here to stay as men’s jewelry.

4. Bracelets

Although less popular than watches, bracelets are a piece of jewelry many men wear. Men’s bracelets used to be made of heavier and more expensive metals such as gold, but alternative metals are becoming increasingly popular. The variety of materials used for bracelets are more varied than for rings or watches, and many of them are not even metals. There are bracelets made of wooden beads, carbon fiber, and ceramics, as well as stainless steel and titanium. Frequently, they incorporate more than one of the above mentioned materials.

5. Necklaces

Necklaces were worn by more men in the past than today. Men who wear necklaces tend to wear just one. In the past there was a higher tendency to wear multiple necklaces. Multiple necklaces can be viewed as tacky or “slimy” today, and as such many men today avoid wearing multiple necklaces.

6. Pendants

Men have mostly switched from wearing necklaces to wearing pendants. Pendants can be used to show a man’s religious faith or just to express oneself. The most common pendant to wear is the cross, in countless variations, and much like bracelets, pendants which were mostly made of gold in the past are now being made in all kinds of metallic and non-metallic materials. Some men wear pendants in conjunction with necklaces, while others choose to wear their pendants around their neck with a modest black leather cord.

7. Cuff Links

Commonly referred to as men’s accessories, cuff links are actually jewelry that men wear without thinking they’re there just keep shirt cuffs buttoned, right? Cufflinks are most often worn in an office setting where more professional dress is required. They make great Father’s Day gifts or birthday gifts. They are usually made of stainless steel or in some cases titanium. Gold is used, but is less common.

8. Money Clip

Men who like to show they have higher status, or at least the appearance of high status, tend to use money clips. With credit cards beings so ubiquitous, many men do not have cash in their pockets, which defeats the purpose of a money clip. The clip part of the money clip is typically made of stainless steel and if there is a decorative element on the clip it can be made of silver, gold or some other type of material. Money clips are usually given on the same occasions as cuff links.

9. Fountain Pens

Designer fountain pens can cost anywhere from a few hundred dollars to tens of thousands of dollars, and tend to be gifts that companies give to their male and female executives. They can also be given to friends or spouses. In today’s high tech world, writing with pens is less common – even signatures can be electronic now. The fountain pen is becoming more of a piece of jewelry than a functional item.

10. Key Chains

Key chains are a jewelry item used to perform a function more than jewelry. For this reason, few key chains are made of expensive metals. Most are made of stainless steel, leather or titanium. This is a gift that is popular for Father’s Day or birthdays, particularly from a son or daughter.



Source by Thomas Larsons

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How To Sew Lined Shoe Bags For Golf, Tennis, Bowling, Gym, Dance or any Other Drawstring Bag http://fatherday2017.com/how-to-sew-lined-shoe-bags-for-golf-tennis-bowling-gym-dance-or-any-other-drawstring-bag/ Tue, 13 Feb 2018 01:07:04 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/how-to-sew-lined-shoe-bags-for-golf-tennis-bowling-gym-dance-or-any-other-drawstring-bag/ Sewing shoe bags for the guys or gals in your life is a great gift idea. No matter what sport or hobby they enjoy or where they travel. . .far away or to the gym, shoe bags or drawstring bags come in handy. The how to sew sewing instructions are […]

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Sewing shoe bags for the guys or gals in your life is a great gift idea. No matter what sport or hobby they enjoy or where they travel. . .far away or to the gym, shoe bags or drawstring bags come in handy.

The how to sew sewing instructions are for a lined drawstring shoe bag.

You are the designer. You can decide the purpose, fabric, design and size of your drawstring bag. Here are some suggestions.

Fabrics

Use whatever fabric suits your fancy. About 1/2 yard of fabric makes one shoe bag.

Sturdier fabrics like denim, canvas, slipcover fabric, fake suede, corduroy, etc. work well for sturdier shoes.

Fine fabrics like velour, velvet, cottons, flannels, etc. are good for dressier shoes.

Think about satin or silk for lingerie bags or jewelry bags. Or use mesh or terry for the beach or laundry bags.

Lining is optional. But, if you line the bags, choose a compatible lining fabric that won’t tear easily especially for the sturdier shoes. Sometimes the same fabric is the best lining. The instructions here are for a lined drawstring bag.

You may want to use washable fabrics so you can launder the bags later.

Preshrink all fabrics before cutting.

Drawstrings

Use a pair of 36 inch long decorative shoe laces or leather laces for each bag or heavy cord or sew your own fabric or fake suede drawstrings. Ribbon also works.

Sizes

Sew a test bag to see if the dimensions are right for you.

Cut one bag with the following suggested dimensions. Place the shoe inside and check to see if it fits well. Add or subtract from the length or width to adjust for whatever shoe or item that you have.

Suggested Sizes

For 2 golf shoe bags, cut 4 pieces of fabric 20 inches long and 11 inches wide. Cut 4 pieces of lining 19 inches long and 10-1/2 inches wide.

Note: Cut an extra drawstring bag for a golf ball bag.

Two bowling shoes will fit into one shoe bag. Cut 2 pieces of fabric 20 inches long and 11 inches wide. Cut 2 lining 19 inches long and 10-1/2 inches wide.

One bag may also hold 2 tennis shoes or 2 ladies dress shoes.

Gym shoes vary in size. For extra large or small shoes, measure around the shoe and adjust the size of the fabric plus seam allowances to accommodate the size of the shoe.

How To Sew Sewing Technique

Decorate the Shoe Bag

Make the drawstring bag unique with a special design or emblem. Think about monogramming the bags or adding a sport motif applique or embroidery design prior to stitching. Place the design about 3 inches from the bottom in the center of one of the 20 x 11 pieces.

After you trim the bag, place 2 bag pieces right sides together.

Measure and make a mark 5 inches down from the top of the bag on both sides.

Stitch 1/2 inch seam around bag starting and stopping at this 5 inch mark. Do not back stitch. For the first and last inch, use short stitches.

Repeat stitching as above for the lining.

Press all seams open on both bag and the lining.

Press under 1/2 inch on the unstitched 5 inch bag side edges. Fuse or stitch to hold.

Do the same for the lining.

Turn the bag right side out.

Turn the lining right side out.

Machine stitch 1/2″ at the bottom of the lining as if you were making a French seam. This creates a strong edge.

Turn the lining wrong side out.

Slip the lining down into the bag so that the top edge of the lining is 1/2 inch below the the top edge of the bag.

Fold the top edge of the front of the bag down 1/2 inch over the lining.

Press this fold to make a crease.

Now, bring the top folded pressed edge of the bag down to meet the side edges at the bottom of the opening.

Pin to hold and stitch close to this fold edge.

To make the casing, stitch 1″ above the previous stitching.

Repeat for the back side of the bag.

Insert Drawstrings

Use a safety pin or bodkin to help slide the drawstrings through the casings.

Slide one drawstring through the casing of the bag back and front having ends on the same side of the bag.

Insert the other drawstring starting at the other side of the bag, sliding through the casing of the bag back and front having ends on that side of the bag.

Tie the ends of the drawstrings together.

That completes the lined drawstring shoe bag.

Note: If the shoe bag is wide enough for two shoes, you may want to stitch up the center of the bag from the bottom up to (but do not include) the casing through all the layers to create separate compartments for each shoe to help keep them

from scuffing.

Pin before stitching and test to see if there is enough room

for the shoes. If not, you may want to increase the width

of your shoe bag.

Sew bags any size for anything. Everybody needs a bag for

something. Kids love treasure bags. Make big bags and little bags. Give drawstring bags to family and friends for Fathers’ Day, birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, etc. Enjoy sewing bags!

It just makes sense!



Source by Marian Lewis

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Wedding Etiquette for the Father of the Bride http://fatherday2017.com/wedding-etiquette-for-the-father-of-the-bride/ Mon, 12 Feb 2018 00:58:13 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/wedding-etiquette-for-the-father-of-the-bride/ So your little girl is getting married – congratulations! Being the father of the bride is a joyful occasion, although it can also be a little hard to get used to the idea of your daughter growing up and becoming a wife. Learn everything you need to know about your […]

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So your little girl is getting married – congratulations! Being the father of the bride is a joyful occasion, although it can also be a little hard to get used to the idea of your daughter growing up and becoming a wife. Learn everything you need to know about your role with this primer on wedding etiquette for the father of the bride.

The first thing that the father of the bride should do when his daughter becomes engaged is to extend an invitation to the parents of the groom. If the bride’s parents are still married, they would do this together, but if they are not, the father of the bride should make the effort to reach out to the groom’s family on his own. A dinner or brunch is the usual way to spend a little time getting to know the other family. Be sure to tell the groom’s parents how happy you are that your daughter will be marrying their son. By the way, this initial meeting is definitely not the time to bring up potentially controversial topics, such as how much everyone intends to chip in for the wedding or differences of religion.

Another very important piece of etiquette advice for the father of the bride is that he should publicly support his daughter’s choice of spouse, no matter what his private reservations about the match may be. Of course, any dad would talk to his daughter directly if he fears that her fiance is violent or unstable, but other than that, it is not his choice to make. In many cases, the bride’s father simply needs to take the time to get to better know his future son-in-law, and will come to appreciate his fine qualities just as the bride does. When that day comes, you don’t want to have previous negative comments floating out there, waiting for the day when someone indiscreet repeats them to your daughter or her husband.

Traditional wedding etiquette states that the father of the bride pays for all of the ceremony and reception expenses, with the exception of the wedding rings and the bride’s bouquet. These days, however, it is more common for the wedding costs to be spread around between both of the bride’s parents, the groom’s parents, and the couple themselves. The bride’s father should be clear with his daughter from the start of the wedding planning process what he can afford to contribute, whether it is paying for the entire wedding, paying for certain expenses, or giving the couple a set sum of money towards the wedding which they can add into their total wedding budget.

Another piece of etiquette the bride’s father should know is that it is customary for him to give a wedding gift to the bride and groom. Again, if the bride’s parents are still together, it would be a joint gift, but if they are divorced, the bride’s dad would give a gift on his own (or with his new spouse if he has remarried). The wedding gift can be anything from the deed to a house to a cash for the honeymoon to a silver picture frame engraved with the wedding date. The size of the wedding present depends on the father’s budget and it need not be extravagant; what really matters is that it is from the heart. Many fathers also choose to give their daughters a special piece of wedding jewelry such as a pearl necklace. A classic present like a pearl necklace is ideal, because it will be cherished as a sentimental gift from father to daughter for a lifetime.

What other etiquette does the father of the bride need to know? He should plan to walk his daughter down the aisle, do a spotlight dance with her at the reception, and give a toast to the couple at the rehearsal dinner and the wedding reception. Beyond that, the bride’s dad pretty much just needs to dress as his daughter requests and show up to the wedding on time with a smile on his face.



Source by Guy Antonelli

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Godparent Gifts – The Top 5 Tips When Buying Gifts for Your Godchild http://fatherday2017.com/godparent-gifts-the-top-5-tips-when-buying-gifts-for-your-godchild/ Sun, 11 Feb 2018 00:53:58 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/godparent-gifts-the-top-5-tips-when-buying-gifts-for-your-godchild/ As a godparent choosing a gift for your godchild can be a real minefield. Babies are especially difficult as they grow and develop so fast that clothes and toys are often redundant within 6 weeks. The old faithful “he will grow into it” gift choice has served godparents well over […]

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As a godparent choosing a gift for your godchild can be a real minefield. Babies are especially difficult as they grow and develop so fast that clothes and toys are often redundant within 6 weeks. The old faithful “he will grow into it” gift choice has served godparents well over the years, if in doubt make sure the gift is advanced and the child will eventually get a lot of enjoyment from it.

In my experience as a father of 2 young boys, the notion of buying gifts for kids that are about 2 years advanced for them is far from ideal. Our oldest boy has 3 godparents (it seemed like a good idea at the time) so he is overrun with toys at Christmas, birthdays etc.

The problem with giving kids toys that are too advanced for them is that by the time they are old enough to properly appreciate them, they have grown bored with, or, in many cases, wrecked the toy and never get the intended use from it. Also, having toys lying around the house that your kids don’t use is a waste of precious space that most homes simply don’t have.

Godparents often feel that their gift should be special and should stand out from the crowd. This can be a double edged sword, if you get it right and everyone loves the gift you can bask in the glory of being the cool godparent who always delivers. Get it wrong and prepare to be the subject of family ridicule at every birthday/Christmas until some other poor fool takes up the mantle!

As an uncle of five, father of two and godparent of one (all under 3), I believe I can call myself experienced in the buying and receiving of gifts for young kids, so here are my top 5 tips for godparents when buying gifts:

1. Big is not necessarily beautiful. Small, high quality toys can be far superior to bulky cheap ones.

2. You can never go wrong with books. There are some fantastic children’s books available these days.

3. Try and be different, its easy to get personalised or unique gifts online.

4. Be gender specific, it’s amazing how quickly boys go tractor and girls go dolly.

5. Do a bit of research (phone the child’s mother!)

As with all gift buying the secret is to give yourself plenty of time to get something decent. Godparents often forget their godchild’s birthday, so set up a simple reminder on your phone or email about a week in advance.

Christening gifts are a once off so it is best to avoid toys as people generally prefer a more commemorative gift that can be kept for years to come.



Source by JP Lappin

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The Invisible Father: Reversing the Curse of a Fatherless Generation http://fatherday2017.com/the-invisible-father-reversing-the-curse-of-a-fatherless-generation/ Sat, 10 Feb 2018 00:51:17 +0000 http://fatherday2017.com/the-invisible-father-reversing-the-curse-of-a-fatherless-generation/ In 1985, my high school journalism instructor encouraged me to take the time to research the statistics and overall impact of absentee fatherhood. She knew that I had never met my father and that I was struggling to come to grips with the matter. She had a lot of faith […]

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In 1985, my high school journalism instructor encouraged me to take the time to research the statistics and overall impact of absentee fatherhood. She knew that I had never met my father and that I was struggling to come to grips with the matter. She had a lot of faith in me as a young man who had the intelligence and drive to elevate myself in a manner that would afford me the opportunity to escape a life of poverty and mediocrity, which was rapidly becoming the norm in my neighborhood. However, she knew that the impact of not knowing my father could easily derail me.

She felt that confronting the issue on my terms would give me the platform I needed to take control over the demons that were haunting me. She was also married to my football coach and the both of them understood my plight and took an interest in me that carried beyond the football field or the classroom. I am grateful to this day. To Coach and Mrs. Leonard, I say, “Thank you!”

Needless to say that I conducted the necessary research and subsequently wrote a full length article on the subject which spawned a life long journey to understand the massive impact that absentee fatherhood has on social culture as a hole.

I don’t know if there has ever been a time that men have been so far offline with their destinies. I cannot recall at any time during my life or in recorded history in which an entire generation had been so negatively impacted by the wayward movement of the very ones entrusted with their care.

Men have come to a point in time in which they have found in an appropriate measure to procreate and abandon their progeny. Even Christian men have fallen away in the way of responsibility.

As a minister I felt compelled to address this epidemic of absentee fathers. The bible speaks clearly about a man that avoids honoring his filial responsibilities.

If anyone fails to provide for his relatives, and especially for those of his own family, he has disowned the faith [by failing to accompany it with fruits] and is worse than an unbeliever [who performs his obligation in these matters]. (1 Tim. 5:8 AMP)

Unfortunately, we as men have abdicated our God ordained positions as protectors, providers and leaders. We have become consumed in our selfishness. In the process, we have left an entire generation to fend for themselves without any manly guidance or supervision. To exacerbate the matter, we continue on claiming to be men of the faith with the slightest inkling that we are in our selfishness giving the faith a black eye.

I have dubbed this epidemic of fatherlessness IFS (The Invisible Father Syndrome). IFS is one of the most devastating forces present in today’s society. We are dealing with a generation of youth that are lost without identities and living in the absence of self-worth. If we don’t take action right now we will find that this nation will fade into the abyss of moral decay.

“But if anyone does not provide for his own and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” 1 Tim 5: 8

This scriptural sets forth the scriptural passage that men have God-ordained responsibility to family and especially those in their home (i.e. their wife and children). I have experienced the devastating force of IFS and can testify to its implacable grip.

Where is my father? Why isn’t he here? Does he love me? These are only a few of the questions that flowed constantly through my mind as a young child. See, I never knew my father; the first time I saw my father was at his funeral. I remember it as if it were yesterday. As the coffin descended into the ground, any possible chance of a long desired relationship with my father vanished before my eyes. I was fourteen then. For the majority of my life I have battled many demons in an attempt to come to grips with the fact that I have never and will never know my father. The finality of the moment engraved the pain into my heart.

After my father’s death, I convinced myself that I was fine. I told myself that I could do just fine without my father, but reality said different. Although I was reared by my great-grandparents and provided with a loving and nurturing environment, I could not shake the heartache of not knowing who my father was or better yet, not having an understanding of why my father chose not to be a part of my life. Although I was immensely precocious as a child, I still lacked the capacity to apprehend the circumstances that surrounded me. I searched in so many ways to gain an understanding of how a person could father a child and not have the slightest concern as to their well-being. Through my siblings and other family members, I have come to learn a great deal about my father which in many ways has served to baffle me even. When you have dealt with that kind of pain, you develop a certain image of the person who is at the center of your pain. The problem is my father; by the account of others was not a bad person. This served to only further frustrate me because it left the same question as before. Why?

I mentioned the fact that I was reared by my great-grandparent, both of whom have since gone to be with the Lord; my grandfather in 1992 and my grandmother in 2010. As nurturing as my grandparents were, not even they were able to totally eradicate the pain I felt due to my father’s absence.

The one thing I am most grateful to my grandparents for is introducing me to Christ. Through the constant intake of Biblical Doctrine and consistent hands on teaching, I developed a personal relationship with Christ, which is the true foundation of Christianity. The Bible says, “Train up a child in the way it should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Prov. 22:6). My grandparents lived and functioned daily under this principle.

My personal relationship with Christ has empowered me to move past the pain and difficulty of not knowing my earthly father; it has allowed me to have access to my heavenly Father, which provides me with the strength and stability to victoriously endure the vicissitudes of life.

Unfortunately, my situation is by no means an anomaly in today’s society. The past few decades has witnessed an exponential increase of fatherless homes. As men, we have found it acceptable to procreate and then abandon our progeny. The once inherent sense of pride and responsibility fathers had in and for their offspring has been replaced by an enormous and perpetual state of irresponsibility. Far too frequently mothers have been forced to assume the responsibility of taking on dual roles in the home.

I, as so many others, am a casualty of the “Invisible Father Syndrome”. I stand as empirical evidence of the adverse affects of living in lack of an earthly father. The aforementioned statement is not meant to be implicit that the absence of a father dooms one to failure, because there are many examples of children who grew up without a father’s presence, yet ascended to greatness. I too overcame, However, I can attribute every success and every victory to my relationship with Christ, my Lord and Savior.

As we move forward, I will attempt to address the crisis of absentee fathers from its origin to the only solution; surrender of every man to the will of God, taking his place as leader, provider, protector, qualifier, and habilitator.

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:2)

Unfortunately, we have fallen short in this ethereal journey. We are called to be the leaders, the examples by which a lost world will be transformed. According to 1 Peter 2:9, we are God’s special and chosen people, yet we have hardly distinguished ourselves from unbelievers. When I say that we are to distinguish ourselves from unbelievers, I do not mean that it should be done in a condescending fashion, but in a way that illuminates and reveals the life of a true Christian. A Christian’s integrity must stand as a beacon light to guide those who are lost to Christ. However; as long as the Christian’s position and stance is obscure, he will continue to relinquish his position as a leader and be rendered ineffective.

To be lugubriously honest, the world is exhausted from the lip service of Christians; what they need is a blueprint that is proven. They need to be able to look at the life of a believer and see the difference a relationship with God makes. Isaiah 29:13 warns against honoring God with lip service only and not from the heart.

“These people come near to me with their mouth and honor me with their lips, but their heats are far from me. Their worship of me is made up of rules taught by men.” (Isaiah 29:13)

When we honor God from the heart, we relinquish our selfishness and surrender to His will for our lives. God’s will for our lives in no way involves fathering and abandoning our progeny. God feels so strongly about fatherhood that he uses it as a point of reference in describing His relationship to us.

As God reveals Himself as the Father, we find He is consistent in His love, always present and an incessant provider. On more than one occasion in the Bible, God promises that He will never leave us nor forsake us; He promises when all others fail us, He will take care of us. In God, we find the perfect example of fatherhood: dependability, veracity, consistency, and most importantly, unconditional love. Yet, in all that God has provided in the way of a blueprint to fatherhood, we as men have come so very short in providing the love, stability and security our children need in order to fully blossom into the extraordinary young women and men God intended them to be.

We are rapidly approaching a time when an active and present father will be an anomaly instead of a normality. Instead of being a normal expectation, a visible father has become an item on many children’s wish list.

The Clarion is sounding but we have yet to respond. All the signs are distinctly visible; however, our lack of spiritual acumen has rendered us incapable to exact change. Daily we are confronted with the vociferous outcry of a lost generation in search of leaders, a generation looking for confirmation that they are loved and valued. They are a generation that in many ways has broken through barriers that the generations before them found impenetrable. They have been able to move past sociological malignancies such as socioeconomic classation and even denominationalism, yet they have been handicapped by a void left by an absentee father. Fathers are supposed to be examples, affirmers, positive label givers and a source of strength to their children, but somewhere along the journey we have lost our way. We have become engrossed in self-fulfillment and self-gratification.

We have adopted a secular philosophy of relative ethics, morality, and righteousness. We have decided to live our lives as we so desire and totally disregard the admonishment of God’s Word; as it clearly states: “Do not be conformed to this world… ” (Romans 12:2)

Yes, many of us, ourselves, grew up without the love of our fathers. Many of us bear the scars of abandonment and neglect; however, we cannot use that as an excuse to lethargically roam through life ignoring our paternal, filial, and spiritual responsibilities. If anything, the painful experience of growing up in the absence of a father should serve to motivate each of us to take every step necessary to insure that our children know personally, the touch and love of a father.

A CHALLENGE

I personally extend a challenge to every man, especially every Christian man, to not only be the father your children deserve, but I challenge you to stand in the gap of the missing fathers in your periphery. To my Christian sisters, on behalf of every man who has hurt you, every man who has left you with the responsibility of raising your child alone; to every woman who has had a man decimate their dreams; to every woman who’s scarred emotionally, physically, or spiritually, I personally apologize. You too, have been scarred, disappointed, disenchanted, and in many ways cheated. You have been deterred from fulfilling your own destiny, but the time has come to rise up and become all that God designed you to be.

Also, to every person who has had to struggle to overcome the pain and disappointment of growing up without a father, I extend an invitation to stand tall and press toward your destiny and purpose God ordained for you. In 2 Corinthians 4:8-9, Paul says, “We are hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.” In essence, the enemy has perniciously attacked you from every angle, but in paraphrasing Paul, you’ve been bruised, but not broken. As vehement as the pain may be, you have the power within to overcome this and every trial you will face in this life.

It is time to reverse the generational curse of fatherhood in absentia. It is time for men to resume their rightful and ordained positions as leaders, providers and protectors. It is time to put self aside and allow Christ to live through us. Proverbs 13:22 says, “A good father leaves an inheritance to his children’s children.” What type of inheritance is this generation leaving the subsequent generations? What will our grandchildren inherit from us? A superficial consideration of the aforementioned question may lead some to consider the bequeathment of material and financial assets, but it is my personal belief that the most impressionable and lasting inheritance a man can leave his descendants is his personal legacy. The question then simply becomes what have you done to positively impact your home, your family, your community, or society as a whole?

One of the most awesome legacies a man can leave is that of a good father. In fact, if men would determine within themselves to reverse the trend of abandoning their children and become pillars of strength in their communities, the spiritual, moral, and sociological impact would be astronomical. I call on every man to stand and be the man he was designed and created to be.



Source by Dr. Rick P Wallace

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